Judgement and Discernment

The times to make judgments about someone’s character come up often. This is not unusual. What makes making judgments difficult is when resentment is added to the judgment. But making judgments is important to do because sometimes we are involved in things we really shouldn’t be involved in. If we never make judgments about these things we will never be able to leave these situations. The thing to remember is to not hold resentment toward the people about whom we are making negative judgments.

A common scenario is with relationships. Both men and women can get into relationships with people who are not good for them. What we need to do in these situations is to accept the fact that our partner is not, for example, emotionally stable and to leave the relationship. After leaving this relationship it is time to move on to other things and not feel any resentment toward that person because it is not good for the person holding the resentment as has been explained in detail above.

When you are in a place where you can make a judgment about other people without resentment entering in, it is discernment. Discerning between things can mean that you are deciding whether or not something is good for you. In the example of the relationship you are discerning whether or not the other person is a good match for you. Does this person do things that you would not like to live with for the rest of your life? If the answer to that question is yes, then you have discerned that it is not a good match. In this case you can terminate the relationship and it will not be because you are resenting this person. It will be because you are acting like an adult and deciding what is good for you and what is not.

Being judgmental is another quality that people tend to think is a part of life. This is when people look down their noses at others that they are judging to be less than themselves. It is not necessary to become conceited when you are discerning the character of another. This makes you less of a person because resentment has crept in. You are resenting the person to whom you feel superior. You can avoid becoming this type of person by discerning rather than judging negatively as described above.

The Foundation of Human Understanding can help you further understand the differences between judgment and discernment and other negative emotions. Roy Masters also has a radio show and you can find the radio station near you on the website. The website can be found at http://www.fhu.com/ and has many materials such as books, videos and CDs that are phenomenal. To say that this website is life-changing is not an exaggeration. You will learn how to give up judgment and resentment which will make everything different.